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  • Reviews
  • Information
    • My Office
    • About Me
    • Videos
    • Psychotherapy/Counseling?
    • Borderline (BPD)
    • Narcissistic (NPD)
    • Fees & Insurance
  • Gestalt
  • Life Coaching
  • Services
    • FAQ
    • Individual Therapy
    • Couples Therapy
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Gestalt For Couples Therapy

Gestalt Empty chair technique

Neither of you wants to admit it, but…

It has been a while since you connected. You and your partner haven’t seen eye-to-eye in a very long time.


The constant bickering has overtaken your home life.

And let’s not talk about intimacy!


Your communication is terrible, and you’re just trying to pretend everything is okay for the kids or appearances. Or maybe you’re just afraid to be alone.


You know that change is needed.

All the doubts, fears, and guilt… only you know that.

Your partner doesn’t see everything happening inside of you – all the resentment and times you’ve felt taken for granted.


This resentment is causing you so much anxiety that you’re not concentrating at work and not performing at your best. How could you with everything going on at home?


So often, the pain results from what’s NOT being said, and pointing the finger rather than facing our emotions is much easier.


Sometimes, we fear vulnerability so much that we become aggressive without even noticing it. For example, I once helped a couple in which each partner was scared to lose the other—so much so that they attacked each other. When they finally reconnected, it was incredibly satisfying.

I will help you resolve conflicts effectively.

I will provide a safe environment where you can feel comfortable being vulnerable.

Space where you don’t have to hold back or hide your feelings.


I will facilitate the improvement in the way you talk to each other.


I will meet with you and your partner weekly. I’ll be present and talk to you, but you’ll mostly look at your partner while you talk to each other.


I use methods that will open lines of healthy communication, and we will practice those in sessions. We’ll move from my observation of how you interact with each other naturally to my progress toward providing feedback to the two of you.

I will you regain and boost your emotional intimacy.

I will help you be aware of your emotions while your partner listens and assists in providing the needed emotional support.


Some of my techniques involve “emotional co-regulation,” which will help you accept and sustain each other’s emotions.

I will focus on increasing intimacy and getting you and your partner closer than you ever imagined.

Reconnecting with your partner is one of the most beautiful things that can happen in a relationship. By connecting with each other’s emotions and needs, you can support each other and increase intimacy.


Suppose I notice any issues caused by personal struggles rather than the dynamics of the relationship (e.g., personal anxiety or fears that manifest as anger and argumentativeness). In that case, we should address those issues in individual therapy. Sometimes, we blame our problems on the outside because we have difficulty accepting our shortcomings. Once those issues are resolved, we can resume work as a couple.

Do not let your fear of failing make you “fail” in your relationship.

You can have the relationship you have wanted for a long time – one based on love, respect, trust, and communication.


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8000 Fair Oaks Parkway, Fair Oaks, Texas 78015, United States

830.446.3155

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